Becoming a Whole Man Paperback – November 8, 2013

Excellent book and resource. Helped me a lot.

This will help you on your path to becoming the man that you want to be.

not good author recalled

Awesome book. Great author. Exceeded my expectations. Felt that the journal helped also.

An amazing book!!!!

Sincere writing from a professional counselor. The book is written to make gay men 'masculine' in the traditional sense. It is offering old ideas that have been passed by due to medical research and even the experiences of the ex-gay ministries which existed from 1973 to 2013 when the long-time leaders finally admitted nobody changed from homosexual to heterosexual in his orientation. Matheson's book promotes the idea that being masculine is a good thing for men to be, and I agree. His assertions to take part in activities like sports and to make friends with men who are heterosexual do no harm in themselves. The problem is they don't work for the men who are not traditionally heterosexual. And the book ignores men like myself who are traditionally masculine, athletic, popular and gay. It is understandable that this author felt he has no choice but to claim heterosexuality since he is a Mormon and his entire social life, family and friends, would shun him if he simply told the truth. He still desires men. How do I know this? The medical associations have clarified how this works. There are some people who are bisexual and experience some fluidity in their sexual attractions, but the book denies there are homosexual men who will always be homosexual. The author assumes there is something wrong with his homosexuality, so he tries to find answers in his very difficult predicament. Sadly, his form of 'gay conversion' or 'reparative' therapy has been proven to be consumer fraud in a court of law where facts were required. Every medical expert testified the kind of SOCE, sexual orientation change effort, this book advocates cures nobody and harms many people. And the major ex-gay ministries from the US to Australia which claimed "change" for decades have all faded into history after their leaders admitted nobody changed from homosexual to heterosexual.

The author is in the news as he's just publicly come out as gay. The story is an old one which many will recognize. He belonged to a very conservative sect of Christianity and grew up in the 60s and 70s. Trying to avoid the desires he felt, he sought out religious therapy, married a woman, had children, and became a therapist to help others like himself facing homosexual attraction to try to move beyond it and lead a heterosexual life. Fast forward 34 years and he FINALLY admits to himself that his "conversion" was not working, he was miserable and had to make a change in his life if he ever hoped to be truly happy. So he divorced hiswife and is now dating men. Moral of this story: if you are young and and are gay and confused or unhappy, find a LGBTQ friendly therapist and learn to accept yourself as a normal sexual human being. The longer you try to live a life defined by others, the longer you'll feel incomplete and unhappy and the more likely you'll end up leaving "collateral damage" along the way (boyfriends/girlfriends, spouses, children, etc.). As for the author, He realizes the damage he manynhave caused people over the years. i hope he'll spend his time helping LGBTQ people like himself find wholeness in living a life accepting themselves.

Book is a lie. Peddle lies to people about becoming straight for a quick buck and then leave when it’s convenient for you. Don’t buy anything.