Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage

I thought this a pretty easy read. Finished it in about 10 hours. Not to say it is not impactful. There is a lot of meat, here, but presented in a meaningful way even a guy can understand about relationships.This was about the clearest, more concise explanation of the roles of the husband and wife without the confusing fluff in other books. As opposed to saying be a servant leader, and die to yourself and go forth and be a godly husband, he explains it and gives examples. The same with the role of the wife, which by the way is not to be submissive. Her role is explained, with examples.The first part goes through an explanation why the 50's traditional model of marriage doesn't work, and the response to that being the 50/50 egalitarian model is riddled with false assumptions. Then he explains the biblical model and how conditions today are not that different from the Roman period in which it was written.The bottomline, the husband and wife have roles to fulfill, each is separate, complementary, and equal. The husband is to be the servant leader in the model of Christ, the wife is the soulmate helper to complement and support the husband to fulfill his role, since the demand of which are more than any man can fulfill. Submission is discussed and the modern interpretation of the word is insufficient. It is not to be a doormat for abuse of some egomaniac man, but the proper response to the servant leadership that is the role of the man. To encourage the man to fulfill his role, which is too easily abandoned when confront with obstacles like a dominating wife, submission is required.They seem to borrow heavily (intentionally or not) from the 5 Love Needs by Gary and Barbara Rosberg (another good book).This is one of the must reads for married couples or intended to marry couples.

It is a well known statistic today that 1 of 2 marriages ends in divorce. One of reasons could well be a confusion on the roles the Bible prescribes for marriage. Although this book presents the idea of the husband as the head of the relationship, it does not present him as the "boss" or as a modern-day Archie Bunker. Instead, men are strongly encouraged in this book to take the lead in serving, in supporting, and in sustaining the other members of the family.The authors begin by defining the confusion over marital roles today, and the resulting chaos. They then outline the husband's role as servant-leader, and describe his core concerns. The wife's role is then outlined as helper-lover, and her concerns are also presented.Two chapters are devoted to the idea of submission, dispeling many myths regarding it. Common problems are addressed, and practical applications are provided. The book closes with two helpful appendices recounting the breakdown of gender roles in ancient Rome, and the impact that Paul's words had on that generation.I recommend this book wholeheartedly for both husbands and wives desiring to gain a better understanding of a Biblical-oriented marriage.

Having a certain perspective of how a relationship should be, I followed that journey only to find out the way I was in relationship wasn't working out. Constant fights, anger resentment and lack of true joy and I had no idea why. I stumbled upon this book looking for answers to a lot of questions and what I wanted to do and what I did not want to do in my next relationship. I always experienced 50/50 and it was understanding your role in a relationship how that can improve the quality of the relationship.It's a must read for anyone that wants to understand balance in relationships and how you can rock your role!

Rocking the Roles is the best book I've read to simplify what roles we should take in our marriage relationship. We've all grown up with our own ideas of how we should treat our spouses. Many of us were misled through television programs that portrayed families. Robert Lewis is very straight forward about how husbands should treat their wives and how wives should treat their husbands. All of what he shares is Biblically based and very accurate. When you are armed with what you should do, then doing it is much easier.

I know of Robert Lewis from his "Men's Fraternity" series and the videos contained in that.in fact I came across this book in the handbook of that series (in the preface) and looked it up on Amazon and based on the reviews ordered it. I must say I was so "excited" by the book I ordered another copy for my then fiancé (now wife) and sent it to her (was abroad at that time)While there are some useful gems in the book overall I think there are way better books out there than this --one of which I am currently reading called "the most important year in a Man/Woman life"I did NOT buy that particular book on Amazon so I cannot leave a review for that but if anyone is thinking of a book to buy/gift def choose something else over this.In fact, I am thinking of getting a new copy of that book for my cousin who recently got engaged.I would have liked more examples from everyday life (yes they are there but more would have been better) and just the overall writing style meant that it was not well received at least by me.

Every marriage partner need info to help them be the BEST partner. This information, if utilized, will help a marriage. As a man (husband), I need a reference book to refresh my memory on one, if not the most important, thing in my life --my Wife! How to supply the things each partner needs to help have a healthy flourishing marriage and family. God Bless y'all.

While yes, this book is a bit dated, it is a must for any couple looking to get married. I was recommended this by a pastor years ago and my husband and I still pull it out if we feel that we aren't communicating well. Quick read.

Best marriage strengthening book ever. I loved this book when we used it as a study guide for our small group, and read it again years later. I still reference my notes and highlights for quick reminders. I would highly recommend this for anyone wanted to better their marriage.