--- product_id: 1835409 title: "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" price: "€ 42.37" currency: EUR in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.be/products/1835409-the-will-to-change-men-masculinity-and-love store_origin: BE region: Belgium --- # 4.7/5 from 3,363 reviews NYT Bestseller #7,312 Top 5 in Feminist & Men's Gender Studies The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love **Price:** € 42.37 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Summary > 📖 Unlock the power of empathy and redefine masculinity with Bell Hooks' timeless classic! ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love - **How much does it cost?** € 42.37 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.be](https://www.desertcart.be/products/1835409-the-will-to-change-men-masculinity-and-love) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - • **Universal Relevance:** Essential for anyone seeking to understand and dismantle toxic masculinity and patriarchy. - • **Accessible & Engaging Read:** Clear, compelling prose makes complex social issues approachable for all readers. - • **Top-Ranked Thought Leadership:** Ranks top 5 in Feminist Theory and Men's Gender Studies, a must-have for progressive minds. - • **Transformative Feminist Insight:** Bell Hooks' groundbreaking exploration of masculinity and love reshapes cultural narratives. - • **Emotional Intelligence Blueprint:** Guides men to embrace vulnerability and heal from patriarchal trauma. ## Overview The Will to Change by bell hooks is a critically acclaimed, New York Times bestselling book that challenges toxic masculinity and patriarchy. It offers a compassionate, feminist perspective on men's emotional healing and vulnerability, ranking top 5 in Feminist Theory and Men's Gender Studies categories. With over 3,300 reviews averaging 4.7 stars, this accessible and transformative work is essential for anyone committed to social progress and emotional intelligence. ## Description From New York Times bestselling author, feminist pioneer, and cultural icon bell hooks, an evergreen treatise on how patriarchy and toxic masculinity hurts us all. Feminist writing did not tell us about the deep inner misery of men. Everyone needs to love and be loved—including men. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways in which patriarchal culture keeps them from understanding themselves. In The Will to Change , bell hooks provides a compassionate guide for men of all ages and identities to understand how to be in touch with their feelings, and how to express versus repress the emotions that are a fundamental part of who we are. With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society, in new and challenging ways. The Will to Change “creates space for men to acknowledge their traumas and heal—not only for their sake, but for the sake of everyone in their lives” ( BuzzFeed ). Review: A Radical Path to Healing: Why Every Soul Needs This Book - Bell Hooks' The Will to Change is nothing short of life-changing. It is an eye-opening, deeply healing manual for anyone who has ever struggled with the complexities of interpersonal relationships. Hooks fearlessly calls out the systematic brainwashing embedded in Western culture—and prevalent in parts of the East—that dictates how we view masculinity, love, and vulnerability. Reading this was a pivotal moment in my own journey. It provided the clarity needed to understand my childhood traumas, not just as their personal failures, but as symptoms of a larger cultural sickness. More importantly, it offered a path toward finding compassion for those who inflicted that pain, breaking the cycle of resentment. What makes this book unique is its dual power: it is undeniably feminist, yet profoundly pro-men. hooks illuminates the root causes of dysfunction and hurt between the sexes, showing us that the enemy is not men or women, but the patriarchal conditioning that stifles our emotional capacity. She empowers us to take charge of our own minds, urging us to identify faulty thinking patterns and trace their origins. The first step to liberation is awareness, and hooks provides the map. I believe every person on Earth should read this book and actively implement her proposed solutions. If we collectively embraced this work, we could literally heal the world, ushering in a level of peace and unity that feels like a utopia. This is not just a book; it is a blueprint for a better humanity. Review: The most relevant book on gender & patriarchy, while the focus is on men, it touches us all. - This is the most relevant and important book on men and masculinity I have read this decade, it includes the important recognition and explanation of men’s experiences as survivors (victims) of the patriarchy. As explained in this book men are not the benefactors of the patriarchy, but a specific target for exploitation at the hands of economic elites using social mores and violence to control them. This is also a critical read not just for men, but for women and anyone who is interested in understanding the origins and realities of the feminist movement and especially how it has failed men, and in doing so has failed women, families and society as a whole. This book doesn’t just talk about the problems of patriarchy in reference to our communities. It talks about specific perspectives, paradigm shifts, and actions we can all take to rectify these issues. Furthermore, this book is very accessible, very easy to read and quite engaging. Brilliant - I’m so sad that we have lost Bell Hooks in recent years - she was one of the most important political and social leaders of our time. And this book clearly demonstrates that. In regards to how it made me feel? The his was the first time I read a book by a non masculine person that validated and empathized with the challenges that men face. It helped me understand many of the issues I have in my life. And it also challenges the misandry of this age. Honestly I believe that people from across the political spectrum, especially men, will find this book validating and and surprisingly support to the many men who are fighting for awareness of men’s issues, as well as men who are suffering alone in silence. This is a must read. ## Features - Used Book in Good Condition ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #7,312 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #5 in Feminist Theory (Books) #5 in Men's Gender Studies #6 in General Gender Studies | | Customer Reviews | 4.7 out of 5 stars 3,363 Reviews | ## Images ![The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61GRmiQSeYL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A Radical Path to Healing: Why Every Soul Needs This Book *by N***E on March 27, 2026* Bell Hooks' The Will to Change is nothing short of life-changing. It is an eye-opening, deeply healing manual for anyone who has ever struggled with the complexities of interpersonal relationships. Hooks fearlessly calls out the systematic brainwashing embedded in Western culture—and prevalent in parts of the East—that dictates how we view masculinity, love, and vulnerability. Reading this was a pivotal moment in my own journey. It provided the clarity needed to understand my childhood traumas, not just as their personal failures, but as symptoms of a larger cultural sickness. More importantly, it offered a path toward finding compassion for those who inflicted that pain, breaking the cycle of resentment. What makes this book unique is its dual power: it is undeniably feminist, yet profoundly pro-men. hooks illuminates the root causes of dysfunction and hurt between the sexes, showing us that the enemy is not men or women, but the patriarchal conditioning that stifles our emotional capacity. She empowers us to take charge of our own minds, urging us to identify faulty thinking patterns and trace their origins. The first step to liberation is awareness, and hooks provides the map. I believe every person on Earth should read this book and actively implement her proposed solutions. If we collectively embraced this work, we could literally heal the world, ushering in a level of peace and unity that feels like a utopia. This is not just a book; it is a blueprint for a better humanity. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ The most relevant book on gender & patriarchy, while the focus is on men, it touches us all. *by Z***D on July 12, 2025* This is the most relevant and important book on men and masculinity I have read this decade, it includes the important recognition and explanation of men’s experiences as survivors (victims) of the patriarchy. As explained in this book men are not the benefactors of the patriarchy, but a specific target for exploitation at the hands of economic elites using social mores and violence to control them. This is also a critical read not just for men, but for women and anyone who is interested in understanding the origins and realities of the feminist movement and especially how it has failed men, and in doing so has failed women, families and society as a whole. This book doesn’t just talk about the problems of patriarchy in reference to our communities. It talks about specific perspectives, paradigm shifts, and actions we can all take to rectify these issues. Furthermore, this book is very accessible, very easy to read and quite engaging. Brilliant - I’m so sad that we have lost Bell Hooks in recent years - she was one of the most important political and social leaders of our time. And this book clearly demonstrates that. In regards to how it made me feel? The his was the first time I read a book by a non masculine person that validated and empathized with the challenges that men face. It helped me understand many of the issues I have in my life. And it also challenges the misandry of this age. Honestly I believe that people from across the political spectrum, especially men, will find this book validating and and surprisingly support to the many men who are fighting for awareness of men’s issues, as well as men who are suffering alone in silence. This is a must read. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ FANTASTIC book. Challenging at times, but absolutely worth it. *by D***3 on February 27, 2014* This was the first book I've read by bell hooks- I was previously familiar with her work, but hadn't yet read a full piece. A bit of context about me as a reader, because I think that's a very important aspect of how this book will be received: I'm a man who considers himself a feminist ally. I do buy into the idea of feminism as important for the health and well-being of not only women, but men as well, so some of my reaction to this book may lie in the fact that it speaks directly to my interests. I have some prior familiarity with mythopoetic men's movement books like "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover" and "Iron John", which hooks addresses. For me, as someone who is working to develop my sense of identity as a thoughtful, respectful, compassionate man, this book was exactly what I wanted at this point in my development. If you're not familiar with bell hooks, she is a proponent of intersectionality - basically, the belief that privilege isn't necessarily a monolithic characteristic that lies only with specific groups, but rather a more fluid interaction between different characteristics of individuals as they relate to one another. A white woman and a black woman may both experience gender discrimination, but it may not be in the same way or to the same degree, based on the additional factor of race. (Don't take my explanation as airtight - I'm just trying to provide context.) Given this philosophy, hooks is able to provide a keen inspection of the ways in which patriarchy not only benefits men, but also harms them. If you hold the unfortunately common (and mistaken) belief that feminism sees straight, white men as "the bad guy", hooks will skewer that. She speaks to some of the societal structures that place unequal burdens on men, or teach us harmful ways of viewing ourselves, without losing sight of the fact that those same structures are harmful to women, people of color, and other minority classes. She does this with INCREDIBLE compassion and even-handedness - in fact, I would say that hooks' ability to discuss this incredibly charged subject matter with such an unwavering sense of caring, fairness, and courage is the single best thing about the entire book. Unlike some who claim to advocate for men, hooks speaks to these issues in a way that unifies and encourages understanding, rather than making one group or another into the boogeyman. There are a few areas which I found challenging and didn't necessarily agree with 100% - there's a section where she briefly discusses Dworkin, whose beliefs are challenging for most men, but she definitely doesn't shy away from talking about radical feminists and the reality of misandry (overblown as it may be in many circles). She doesn't deny that there are some feminists who have driven men away with anger, but she also doesn't pretend that they're a majority - nor does she pretend they don't exist because that might be more convenient. I was a little concerned when the subject came up at first, but she handles it so well that I came away with a sense of greater understanding and compassion. Similarly, she sometimes references Bly (Iron John) and disagrees with aspects of his philosophy (basically, how his work views women)- I see her point where she makes it, didn't necessarily agree completely, but again: she does it in such a way that I don't feel baited or dismissed, but as if I'm just hearing the opinions of someone who is clearly very educated, opinionated, and above all, dedicated to compassion and fairness. Overall, this book speaks to a very charged subject with unerring maturity, insight, and compassion. If you're able to read it with an open mind and heart, you'll likely find it as moving as I did. There are places where hooks speaks to painful realities of manhood with such clarity that it hurts, but in the end she reveals a path to greater connectedness, compassion, and emotional health. ## Frequently Bought Together - The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love - All About Love: New Visions - Communion: The Female Search for Love (Love Song to the Nation, 2) --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.be/products/1835409-the-will-to-change-men-masculinity-and-love](https://www.desertcart.be/products/1835409-the-will-to-change-men-masculinity-and-love) --- *Product available on Desertcart Belgium* *Store origin: BE* *Last updated: 2026-08-24*