Getting in Touch with Your Inner Bitch

The advice in this delightful volume applies to seniors of all genders navigating life, as well as it’s target audience. This book does NOT advocate meanness or bad manners. Just polite but very firm assertion of self. When I hear about this book at a wellness retreat, I immediately thought of how seniors are often treated, do I got the book. Very delighted.

Anybody that knows me knows that I am way too nice. I saw this book and knew I needed to read it! Anything that I can read to help me become a better person is what I am interested in right now! If you are a person who is too nice and try to be as agreeable and nice as you can all the time, you need to read this book!"Eventually, I manifested all the Niceness I could, bending over backwards to be agreeable, helpful, thoughtful, adoring, and adorable--in other words, a complete dormat." (loc. 128)This is totally me. I hate conflict and I always try to do everything I can to make someone else happy, even if it means putting my feelings aside. The author in this book realized that she was suffering from toxic niceness, and it was when she was dealing with a man. She got stood up and she was mad, but then she started making up all these excuses to give him the benefit of the doubt. She just knew he must have been seeing another woman (he said "something came up"), but he was so cute and she really liked him so she forgave him. After all "no one likes a bitch. How could a nice girl like me stay angry? He asked me for another chance and I gave it to him." (loc 146).I highlighted so many things in this book. It was so full of great information! The biggest thing is to learn to say "I don't think so". It's so easy to just agree with everything even if you don't want to. That way you avoid any hurt feelings. It's just easier to get along with everyone. This book is showing me that I don't have to get along with everyone. I have my whole life ahead of me and there is no reason why I should let any part of my life be unhappy. Now, the real trick will be putting this into practice!I highly recommend this book!CherylBlack Diamond's Book Reviews

I didn’t know I let “toxic niceness” determine how I react in relationships. I often wondered why people would get angry with me the first time I would set a boundary. It didn’t occur to me that being too nice does not win friends or gain influence. The mantra “I don’t think so” has been useful to me in situations where I need to say what I feel and not let something slide.The downside to this book is it’s a bit repetitive and some of the inspirational quotes are by people who have since been canceled (Bill Cosby and Ellen to name a few).A bit out dated but a good book about boundary setting 101

You have nothing to lose but your wimpiness....For eons females have been demeaned and it is often with words that refer to our weakness, i.e. pussies, wimps,etc.Since feminism, women are embracing the idea that it is possible to be a bitch in a positive, empowering way. As a therapist, I have encouraged girls and women to think of rough, arrogant females as Bitches with a capital B, or in a negative way because rough arrogance isn't liberation.But accepting the word bitch as a positive may mean that because you stand up for yourself, or get angry at what you should and when you should brings you this epithet, then own it. That way, we can be proud of being strong, even if it is threatening to some. In my opinion the people who are threatened by it are people, more males, who only feel powerful by expecting and keeping females weak.Getting in touch with your inner bitch helps you find your voice and your stronger self.

I frequently "gift" this book out to my friends (male or female) who have trouble with boundaries. Most relatively emotionally healthy people don't have problem with keeping boundaries in place with nasty people. But it can be really hard to have boundaries with nice people, with loving family, or with close friends. This book covers the full range of how to say no to people in ways that are firm, but don't cause offence. The points are taught with wonderful humor which helps one to remember what to say when one is caught off guard. This delightful book is for not only the "doormat" personalities, but those of us who are "macha" women with a compassionate soft spot that can get us where we really didn't want to be.

Need to say NO to someone. Don't know how?This is an outstanding book about boundaries and the reason it is awesome is that it is also very funny... but also very wise.I suggest anyone who has a good sense of humor but boundary issues... like telling people no... or even yes.... to get it.A psychiatrist friend of mine bought 30 for his patients after I gave one to him. He said it was right on!!Get it.No cons!!I just bought it again because I lost my former copy and wanted one.... you never know when someone will come to you for advice about problems telling moochers no and problem relatives no and so forth... and you WILL laugh!

I was hoping to laugh, but alas, no. I could not relate to the humour in this book, or even its storyline. Perhaps younger readers would get more from it; say, the 6-25 crowd.