No One Has to Die Alone: Preparing for a Meaningful Death

I purchased this three years ago and neglected to write a review at the time. The book remains in my library to this day because it was so very helpful for myself and my family as we experienced the passing of my father at age 98. Dad been suffering from dementia for a number of years and caring for him was often very frustrating. It was frequently difficult to determine his wants and needs and we were definitely not experts in interpreting what he was trying to communicate to us. Quite honestly, we simply lacked patience and understanding necessary to deal with the situation and that frustration was clearly obvious, but not well understood by him..Then I found "No One Has to Die Alone on Amazon'. I purchased it and found Dr. Leary's story of her own father so closely paralleled my ownexperience, I felt I was reading about my own father's death. And that being the case, I was able to regain patience and understanding and betterprovide comfort not only for my father, but for the surrounding family. We all found peace in those last few months, thanks to this well written can comprehensive work of Dr. Leary's.

I met the Author a few months ago when she gve a presentation at our IANDS group in Tucson. Her book and her experiences paralleled my own near-death experiences. My wife passed away a few months ago, and Lani's experience, along with my own near-death experience, assured me that my wife's spirit is alive and well on the other side. This book is extremely worth while for anyone dealing with death of a loved one.Bill Wheeler, PhDTucson, AZ

We are all going out of this world via death. Not only is this book excellent for understanding that we all die, it is a great guide to helping you know what to do when that time comes. I love that this author looks at death as a graduation from the bodily plane to the heavenly plane where pain and struggle no longer exist. There are far too many accounts of the unconditional love and light awaiting us all, for me not to believe it to be true. Lani's own story is so touching and real that it brings tears to your eyes when she beautifully describes how she helped her father transition. Highly recommend that everyone read this book.

I have suffered from exstistential depression since I first knew about death. This book has helped me cope with the knowledge of my mortality and has helped prepare me to dealing with my Grandfather's impending death. Highly recommend. It has an arsenal of tools for dealing with before, during and after death, including involving others and dealing with grief, especially with children.

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Never have I read a book of such monumental value and significance. This book opened a door for me providing a multitude of choices and options that I had not been aware of, not just about death/dying but also about LIVING. Already I have highlighted the areas within as a reminder during my lifetime on how to be "present" with compassion, the art of listening, "...make choices out of love and acceptance rather than fear and avoidance..", ...and so much more. Dr. Leary has clearly written this not only from her intellect but also from her heart to the heart of others. It has changed my life on many levels with living, grieving and dying.

This book is very insightful and compassionate and has been an excellent resource for end of life caretaking for my sisters and I. Few of us know about the process of death and what our loved one is going through- letting your loved one be in charge of the process and talk about the things in life that have mattered to them is essential. Everyone wants to know that their life mattered and want their family and loved ones to be with them. Lani Leary's book answered all of my questions and has helped ease my anxiety with the process of dying (physical and spiritual). The second half of the book is about the grief process which we all go through- very well written. You can tell that Lani Leary has written her compelling book through love, compassionate caring and vast experience in the field of end of life care. Thank you for this comprehensive book

Very thought provoking book with some very interesting information. I highly recommend this book.

Dr. Leary shares some wise words in this book. Ever thought to yourself if how we die matters? Or if we can make a difference to anyone we know that is dying? In this book, we not only learn more about having a better perspective but we also come to terms with finding meaning in the loss we feel.What I mostly loved about this book was that the Author’s journey starts with her personal experience of losing her own father. I felt sorrowful reading her story and once finished, I had to take a couple of minutes to pull myself together. From this experience, the Author then begins to give us a meaningful insight into how this feels and how we should act. You will be shocked to know that this book will change your perspective and will create a better ‘YOU’ for when it’s needed.“Dying may be painful; death is not” Dr. Leary informs us. We can cope, and we can process ways to grief in our own ways, but she emphasizes that validation is the key to resolving pain.Also, the Author discusses that children grief differently than adults. This is a very sensitive topic, and very few have the right answer. I believe this book does give a very insightful idea on how it can be processed.In summary, I recommend this book to people that are interested in the psychology of death and dying and anyone that is going through grief or has a loved one that is terminally ill.Written by Jeyran Main

she know her subject very well. Also she has some personal experience with caring for a loved one, She also develops very well the after for yourself when losing a loved one. Excellent

Good info for the care giver of terminally ill patients .

This book is full of stuff about the afterlife. Light at the end of a tunnel rubbish! As someone who is currently supporting someone very close to them go through a terminal illness I did not find it particularly helpful and certainly wouldn't have recommended it to them. If you're interested in the spiritual and believe in the concept of heaven this book is for you. But if you're more concerned with the here and now then perhaps give it a miss. American tripe!