Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Kindle Edition

This is an easy-to-read book, with insights into how one can stop doing the things that sabotage their life (trying to change other people, being envious of others, trying to take care of everybody, procrastinating, and more). Each of the 40 specific topics are discussed fairly simply in about 3 pages which are peppered with quotes and advice. Although I didn't find much especially new in the book, I appreciated the author's straightforward counsel. As with any self-help book, the really difficultly is not in understanding what to do, but in actually implementing real change in your life. Overall, I recommend this book. Please mark if you find my review helpful. Thank you so much!

This is another "common sense" book, one we shouldn't have to read because we should have everything between the covers dialed in, but for a number of reasons, we don't. The biggest reason, I guess, is that as we go through life, we let ourselves become emotionally affected by life events, and reacting emotionally to emotional situations never turns out well.It's a laundry list of things you should or should not do. You can preview the book and see the contents for yourself. Some are pretty obvious ("Quitting Too Soon," "Letting Others Control Your Life"), while others are more subtle and are probably doing more damage than you realize because they have burrowed so deep ("Acting Too Needy," "Talking When Nobody's Listening").See, the secret is to catch yourself in the act of doing these things and then put in the fix WITHOUT beating yourself up for it.That's how this book can help you. Highly recommended.

Pretty much everything was an amazing read and even inspired me to plan out my day and not skip too many classes when in doubt of myself.The least liked part was about forgiving your abusers. Especially any abuse from your parents/guardians. As someone who survived narcisisstic abuse, I find it awful that we have to keep in contact with our abusers when in fact going no contact is the best method. Any kind of abuse for a child was a reason enough for self-doubt and self-defeat even exist for many people in this time and age.I believe in forgive and forget but also to keep my distance towards horrible people.

Quick, easy, but insightful read. I've had a lot of light bulb moments while reading. Chapters are very short and concise, but definitely worth the read and a book that you can refer to for many years to come. Great addition to the bookshelf.

The anecdotal nature of the various examples turns off some people. But I found it easy to follow and very relatable. My family and I are going through some major, life-changing, turmoil and even my usually pragmatic husband feels this book was an excellent purchase. By making the examples personal and relatable, the author shows you that each person can handle things in their own way and still attain a good outcome. Sometimes all you need is a nudge, and this book provides nudges in the all the right directions. Not everything will apply to you, but everything is written in an easy to read style that makes none of it come across as preachy or judgmental.

Excellent book! If you put yourself down (like me) or like to blame others for what goes wrong in your life this is a must read! It actually helps you to make sense of "why do I do that"! It will help you to get a jump start on how to fix you.

Great understanding behind our emotions and behaviors without being lengthy and hard to follow. A good reference when you’re overwhelmed by a certain feeling.

I have given this book to several of my clients and they have told me on more than one occasion how helpful it has been to them, especially the chapter on Procastination. I even had one particular client that would come in and ask me to make copies of it for her family members and another that was reading it with her mother. One has kept it so long that I am going to have to order another. It really helped a lot of them and I am glad I purchased it for that purpose. Regardless of the date of publication, material is still relevant and friendly to all audience demographics.

This book contains some very good advice on how your can change the way that you perceive problems that you may face and how you may overcome them and often prevent them.

A good light-hearted read

Als jemand, der schon viele Bücher über Lebensoptimierung/Selbsthilfe gelesen hat, habe ich eigentlich nicht viel erwartet. Tatsächlich bringt der Autor allerdings viele Punkte, die in anderen Büchern vernachlässigt werden und erklärt Dinge, die man eigentlich weiß aber trotzdem nicht umsetzt, mit Fallbeispielen. Er analysiert die Verhaltensweisen auch und erklärt, was hinter ihnen steckt, was in der Suche nach Strategien, diese Verhalten nicht mehr zu zeigen, sehr hilfreich ist.Sehr gut gefallen hat mir auch der klare Aufbau mit guter Struktur.

Great book by professional psychotherapist Dr. Mark Goulston. I believe any serious reader will learn to better understand himself and find definite solutions to one's problematic behavior. if any reader is not going through this book in a superfluous way, he / she will definitely end up bringing positive changes in himself / herself.For myself, chapters on following self-defeating behavior were most relevant:-1. How to Beat-Self-Defeat2. Procrastinating3. Getting so angry you make things worse.4. Always having to be right.5. Taking things too personally.6. Quitting too soon.7. Backing down because you don't feel ready.Quotes inside the section 'Usable Insight' of each chapter are very impressive. i find these quotes as definite guiding rules in problematic situations. These quotes leaves lasting impression on memory and effectively summarize the detail solution explained in the chapter.I want to thanks Doctor Mark Goulston to share his many years of experience as psychotherapist to the people dealing with self-understanding and self-control. I hope such people somehow find this book. This book is a perl in the ocean of amazon search results.

every topic / habit etc. is explained in a few pages. at a number of pages like this, this is acceptable. it helps you identify what you have and then you can later focus on your issues on specific books or therapy. I do recommend.