Emotional Intelligence 2.0 [With Access Code] Unknown Binding – January 1, 2009

The beginning of the book states that it is best to take your Emotional Intelligence Appraisal before reading but I received no link for the appraisal. Where do I find that?

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First off I made a huge error in the purchase process when deciding to buy this book or not. I failed to read all the comments.After having read the book I find two things about the book that really bugs me.1.) The authors succinctly attempts to describe man in a neatly packaged deal that incorporates as its only content your intelligence, your emotional inteligence, and your personality. They state that your IQ and your personality are static and are incapable of changing throughout the course of your life. Only your emotional intelligence can be manipulated. I wholeheartedly disagree with them. Your actual ability to process material at faster rates may not change over the course of your life but the way you process the material can be managed. For instance, your brain may be a Pentium 4 chip (although more and more lately I think kids behave more like a 386) and your intelligence may be closely related to your brain's ability to process information, but intelligence is so much more than natural abilities to process raw data.If you learn how to manage and process information differently then you don't necessarily need a faster and more intelligent brain to improve your level of intelligence. To say that people are only as smart as the day they were born is like saying water can only be water in it's three physical states. You neatly draw attention to the mundane fact that yea water can only be gas, liquid, or solid, but water can be so much more than that. Sometimes intelligence is not merely the physical state but also the intent and action behind it as well. Water can be soup, soda, coolant, etc... You may be a Pentium4 but be able to perform better than a duo core chip with a fragmented hardftive by bettering and refining yourself through the process of learning thusI think intelligence can be increased overall. If they insist that intelligence is purely your speed and rate of processing of your brain then perhaps they should then stop referring to intelligence and simply call it brain power.In addition, they say your personality is stable throughout your entire life and thus cannot be changed. I'm certain everyone here on Amazon either has known someone who has changed their personality (ie going from being introverted to introverted or vice versa) or have experienced it yourself. When I was a kid I hated meeting people and crowds because I was a shy kid. I didn't know a lot of stuff to say and when teachers and professors asked me to read out loud or give a presentation to the whole class forgettaboutit! I didn't like parties or going clubbing (at first) and would rather go play chess at Starbucks.Then through a process of experiencing life and learning life skills and communication skills and just knowing more information I was able to change. I thrive on public speaking and I love going out and meeting people (although I actually can find enjoyment in either staying home or go on a social outting depending on the weather, my mood, who is going, and where we are going all plays a role in my deciding if I'm introverted or extroverted at the time).My problem with the authors is that they seem to pigeonhole people and say that people cannot change intellectully nor can they change their own personality or characteristic traits. If this was realy the case then a cheater/liar/thief/murderer/DUI can never change their ways because that's their personailty (characteristic flaw is weakness in resisting lust, impulse, greed, etc...). I've known people who are serial cheaters in college and couldn't keep their @$@! In their pants (women too not only guys... Actually know more women that cheated than men). Now they are married with kids and are committed to their relationship. As they have stated as to why they cheated and gave into their temptation it's because they were young and felt reckless and wanted to experience. They still have impulses but overall they don't feel the urge to act out the impulse anymore because they've been there before and they prefer stability now.According to them the Holy Grail of change can only happen through changing your EQ. This is completely a biased point of view. In the book they make bold statements that state "people who are low in EQ and job performance can match their colleagues who excel in both - solely by working to improve their EQ."So what they are saying is by improving only on your EQ while disregarding knowledge and improvement on skillsets you will perform just as well as that colleague that operates with a superchip processor with an IQ of 175 and has high EQ with a your presumably slower processor. Gypsies once sold medicine in the past offering people cures saying that the only thing that can save them is the stuff the are peddling. Shameless self-promotion if you ask me. Imagine for a second two physicists, an average but still very smart physicist who has an relatively average IQ of 129 and a low EQ and Einstein who is both high on IQ and EQ. The authors' stance is that if the average physicist improves his EQ to that of Einstein's or better he will achieve the same as Einstein. Right and if you dress a pig up as cow te pig would fetch the same price at a cattle auction. It's still about substance when grading even success right? The first physicist still would not achieve as much as Einstein would. What I have a problem with the authors here is that they almost recklessly and foolishly push the idea that EQ is the one and only thing (or at least the one thing that has the absolute most impact) that determines whether people perform admirably at a job. This is a reckless stance because there will be people out there that would actually believe that their lazy no-knowledge butts would start performing like Bill Gates or Steve Jobs while disregarding the fact that both Jobs and Gates continually improve upon themselves in very non-EQ ways.2.) Besides Who Moved My Cheese and How Full is Your Bucket I can't recall another book that has bigger print than this book. EQ is a very important and complex subject that cannot be adequately covered in this short book. I'm with other reviewers in regards to this. It's like them telling you to boil water and throw the chicken in to make chicken soup. How long do I boil it? How about the amount of seasoning? Do I shred the chicken or cut up into pieces? Maybe I should buy precut pieces? I know making chicken soup is slightly more complicated than simply boiling water and throwing chicken in it. To me this is indicative as to their basis of information that they are presenting in this book. Too narrowminded and shortsighted to be taken seriously. Afterall, you wouldn't buy a cookbook that explains the reasons for cooking and why people get sick from undercooked food but then when showing you the recipe all it tells you is to start throwing things in the crock pot but not telling you the amounts to use or what cut of meat or how long to cook right?Another indication that the authors are a bit shallow in their content and commitment in writing an actual book of well informed and useful substance is their online EQ quiz. I've seen more indepth quizes on cereal boxes. And just in case you're thinking it's not about the size but the quality of the content questions... No. They hve like 3 or 4 questions regarding each of the four EQ competencies. After you answer the handful of questions they magically tell you how you rate emotionally.Not good. Wouldn't recommend reading this book. Actually read it if you want but don't buy it.

Emotional maturity

Work required read.

I got this for my teenager and encouraged her to complete the assessment. I learned she is very sensitive and it helped me to see her as an individual instead of part of the teenage stereotyping. She got interested in the content and learning more about what the different talents look like. I am so glad I did this with her.

I think this will be a good book. It doesn't add a lot of information to the field of Emotional Intelligence for me but what it does do is give some guidance in how the reader can increase their Emotional Intelligence or EQ as it's called.The book lays out four areas where you can increase your EQ. I find this interesting once again. A few years ago I went to a training meeting offered by the group that I worked for. In that meeting they said that people had been dividing people into different groups of strengths for thousands of years starting with Socrates. They often divide them into 4 groups and the groups are similar sounding. I just remember this happening and that after the guy leading us that time said it I went and researched it on the web a little and he seemed to be right. Now here these guys are again dividing us into 4 Groups. That's got to be good.I'm not going to tell you what the areas are, but they make sense. The book also give 63 ideas (I'm just repeating what I heard or read somewhere I didn't actually count them) about how to improve in these areas. I find this a very great idea. Many of these ideas I've read about before in self-help books, like remembering someone's name is very powerful. Yes it is and I'm terrible at it, but this give a good reason for why I should improve and how it will help overall. This book also makes the point that trying to change everything at once is over whelming and that you should just pick 3 ideas to work on. That really makes sense to me.Buying the book also gives you access to a code that allows you to take a super special test (in their eyes I'm sure) that analyzes where you need help and then gives you suggestions on what you should start practicing. In a review about this book I read someone that said that the test was stupid and that it would be easy to ace. I'd have to say that I agree with that person, but only a moron would try to ace a test they were going to take for self improvement. Maybe acing the test if it were part of a job interview sure, but just for yourself? The test actually confirmed that I'm weak in areas I thought I'd be weak in, and stronger in areas I thought I'd be strong in, although not as strong as I'd like. They gave 3 suggestions of things to work on in the book and I agree with two of them but will probably change the third. Overall this seems to be a very promising book.

I was expecting much much more. First half of the book simply state and repeat how important emotional intelligence is and how easy it is to improve it. According to the authors, any kind of problem in life is due to lack of emotional intelligence. Learn EQ and you will have success everywhere, etc. This is followed by the description of some personalities (maybe fake) that had success in life due to their emotional intelligence inspired personalities. Very verbose. No practical tips, only verbose discussion mostly based on author's opinion. No valid scientific references and no scientific metrics. Second half gives some tips for training EQ but it is very basic and again very verbose. In gives mostly obvious tips like "smile to people", "be nice", "observe behaviour". I found it useless.

I've already had the audio book version of it but as the authors raved about their online EQ test ( how informative it is and how it will help to build development plan etc.) I decided to buy a paper copy just to get the access to EQ test.It was a waste of money as the test is literally around 30 rating scale questions about your behaviours. The results are very generic, short and poorly presented (as you have to navigate between your results page and the explanation behind it, ) it is not personalised. I have taken some free tests that were much more informative than this. The book itself is a good read, but if I would have known how basic their test was I would have not bought new paper copy but sticked with the audio book that I already had.

Many times I have thought what a person makes more likeable than others, but as well as other factor to close deals or be more symphatetic with other people. Sor far, I am enjoying the book so much and learning loads from my own decisions and the way I am thinking during conflicts or situations. Worth the read

I was expecting a lot more from this book. The formatting was super annoying, with text boxes breaking the text which only repeated what was written in the paragraph. The line spacing is too large and the font and tone are annoying.There are a couple of good suggestions but other than that it's a lot of stating the obvious with an advertising-like tone. Also asserts that IQ is fixed from birth which is still an unclear topic. Several ideas are introduced but none are supported by references to actual literature, and none are followed up in any meaningful way.

I got this on a recommendation after a 1 day workshop .. it’s brilliant and the added online test etc is fantastic .. can’t wait to start putting the strategies into practice